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Theresa Ruth Howard Dancer/Writer/Teacher Theresa Ruth Howard began her professional dance career with the Philadelphia Civic Ballet Company at the age of twelve. Later she joined the Dance Theatre of Harlem where she had the opportunity to travel extensively throughout the United States, Europe and Africa. She has worked with choreographer Donald Byrd as a soloist in his staging of New York City Opera's Carmina Burana, his critically acclaimed Harlem Nutcracker, as well as the controversial domestic violence work The Beast. She was invited to be a guest artist with Complexions: A Concept in their 10th anniversary season. In 2004 she became a founding member of Armitage Gone! Dance. As a writer Ms. Howard has contributed to Russell Simmons’ One World magazine (art), and The Source (social politics), as well as Pointe and Dance Magazine. While teaching in Italy for the International Dance Association she was asked to become a contributor for the premiere Italian dance magazine Expressions. Her engaging, no nonsense writing style caught the eye of both the readers of Dance Magazine and its Editor in Chief who not only made her a contributing editor and has collaborated with Ms. Howard in See and Say Web-reviews. Her articles about body image prompted her to develop a workshop for young adult (dancers and non-dancers) My Body My Image that addresses their perceptions both positive and negative about their bodies and endeavoring to bring them closer to a place of Acceptance and Appreciation. She recently launched a blog by the same name to reach a broader audience (mybodymyimage.com) As a teacher Ms. Howard has been an Artist in Residence at Hollins University in and New Haven University in addition to teaching at Sarah Lawrence College, Marymount, Shenandoah, and Radford Universities, and the historical American Dance Festival. As a result of her work at ADF Ms. Howard was invited to Sochi, Russia to adjudicate the arts competition Expectations of Europe and teach master classes, and in Burundi, Africa where she coached and taught the Burundi Dance Company. Currently she on faculty at The Ailey School but also extensively throughout Italy and Canada. Ms. Howard's belief in the development, and nurturing of children lead her to work with at risk youth. At the Jacob Riis Settlement House in Queensbridge New York, she founded S.I.S.T.A (Socially Intelligent Sisters Taking Action) a mentoring program for teen-age girls where she worked to empower them to become the creators of their destinies. In addition she developed a dance program, which lead to an exchange with the Dance Theatre of Harlem. Through her teaching and travels Ms. Howard began to observe a universal disenchantment and disconnection in teenagers that disturbed her, thus she set out to address it. Combining her philosophies of life and teaching, with the skills she garnered through outreach programs with diverse communities, she developed the personal development workshop Principles of Engagement: Connecting Youth to the Infinite Possibilities Within which gives teens a set of workable tools to increase their levels of success at tasks, and goals not only in dance, and all aspect of their lives. Theresa Ruth Howard is certainly diverse and multifaceted as an artist, and is moved to both write and create work; however she sees every student she encounters as a work in progress, and the potential to change the world one person at a time. The only was to make this world a better place it to be better people in it!

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Antonia Opiah’s Video Docu-series “Pretty explores Black Beauty Internationally


It is difficult to describe what being the minority in a culture feel like, what it is to be underrepresented in almost all aspects of life, to not see yourself in all of the familiar places. In America depending on where you live and your economic strata, you might not see yourself regularly represented in your teachers, in the law enforcement officers charged with keeping you safe, or the firemen in your community. You might not see someone who looks like you when you go to the doctors, or filling your prescription. You have a good chance of seeing yourself in the bank teller who cashes your parents check, or your cashier at the drug store or supermarket. If you take a trip you are certain to see yourself in the TSA agents, but perhaps not in your pilot. When you turn on the television, you, might see yourself as the newscaster, but you will assuredly see yourself as the perpetrator of crimes being reported. If you click to an entertainment channel you will see yourself as an artist, perhaps if you are male you will be a tatted up rapper, side-eyeing scantily clad women who are bent over shaking their asses at the camera, if you are a brown girl you see yourself crawling on the floor over dollar bills with your hind parts giggling…. For you, the roles of Thug and Hoe are always being cast.

When a commercial comes on the television for beauty products, shampoos, hair color, mascara, foundation, moisturizer, you will more than likely not see a reflection of yourself. L’oreal is not telling you that YOU are worth it, you are not Easy Breezy Beautiful… You are not a Covergirl. Yes, there have been Black/Brown Spokespeople for such brands but they are almost always famous faces, we can always feel that we are being pandered to, (I suppose we are all being pandered to in a way) but as a person of color when you see Queen Latifah, Beyonce, or Halle Berry, you know that a whole bunch of white people sat in a room around a big table trying to figure out how to get black people to buy their product and then went for the short reach. They all fit within the established spectrum of the beauty (expect Latifah but she is a two for… Black and plus sized). When someone who does look like you is featured, she might be lightened to such degree that she no longer looks herself, but a very tanned white woman….

When buses whiz by plastered with clothing advertisements, they are not directed to in beauty or body type, a thin (made thinner by photoshop) pink leg pokes out of a skimpy short, her flowing hair blowing in the feigned breeze… You do not see yourself. There is no way to describe what being invisible in the world feels like. Ralph Ellison wrote about it… But to live it…It’s hard to explain especially when people don’t what to hear, to believe that it is truly a reality.

This is what Black/Brown women often feel when we open fashion and beauty magazines, it is why we have Essence Magazine, or Latina People (are Latina’s not plain “People”) When there is still a lack, of the acknowledgment of people of color in Euro-centric societies how can we expect something like our beauty to be addressed? When so often our presence, and contributions go unacknowledged, why would our beauty be seen let alone celebrated? What I find so interesting about this reality, is that the same people who systematically exclude the unadulterated images of Black/Brown beauty, will constantly siphon off aspects of it for their own use…White women have for ages have tanned, to darken their skin, they have injected their lips to achieve that, “bee stung” pout that many women of color are born with. Women of color who have been blessed with the fullest of mouths have been teased and chastised for them…The irony. And now we get to the physical trophy to end all…(END being the operative word here). The round “bubble butt,”  is all the rage with the lighters set. Could this be Miss. Sarah Baartman’s vindication (truly, there is none). We know it’s true,  hell The First Lady of Fashion Anna Wintour just declared the Ass IN!!  So its official. To the chagrin of many, Vogue writer Patricia Garcia cited  in her article The Dawn of the Butt: Big Booty in Pop Culture over the Years cites Kim Kardashian as the arbiter of the Ass… then  Garcia gives credit to Instagram ass sensation Jen Selter for boosting the booty craze (Personally I think they both have fake asses)… Seriously? Seriously? These white women might have made it OK for White men to openly ADMIT that they like a whole handful of ass but these chick did not make it hot…. Wait perhaps they did, they because that’s how this society works… It’s only when the Majority decides that something is desirable that it becomes an official thing of beauty and not the object of disdain. The truth of the matter: big lips and big asses are only en vogue when on a white woman. On a black woman that is still a ghetto booty and (Excuse my vulgarity but,,), Nigger Lips… Double standard…of beauty, and life.

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I write all this to say that a dock-series such as Pretty by Antonia Opiah is a great reality check for everyone. It  can be a great educational tool for white people as they will have the opportunity to take a glimpse into the what it feels like to be a Black/Brown girl in a White girl’s world. I think the international scope of the work is also important. It reveals our diversity not just physically but culturally, where we don’t all look alike we don’t all speak, or feel the same way. I think what might become clear is that what most of us (Black/Brown gals) might ask for is a bit of inclusion. That inclusion would in turn broaden the spectrum of beauty for all (white women as well). I think this is a brilliant project and I look forward to future installments.

Helen Mirren is the epitome of aging gracefully

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There are very few women (of a certain age) in Hollywood who have the courage and the personal integrity to allow themselves to age gracefully. *Note I did not say “naturally” because I think that you can have some “support” and still look like you- just good for your age. There are topical products (manufactured and natural) that can help abate the hands of time as there are injections and yes surgery that can be a part of your maintenance program. It is a very personal issue.

At 69 years of age Helen Mirren is the star of L’Oreal Paris’ new television ad campaign and she has never looked better. She is powerful, sassy, sexy and alluring and she knows it!!!

What I love about this is that they let us see her skin, which has wrinkles!! and they are beautiful. She looks elegant and refined and she looks her age but just really great. I love how she is styled, it is hip and fresh but age appropriate. I think that this  is a stunning ad!

So HERE is the “Plus Sized” Model that IS in the SI Swim Suit editorial …

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Robyn Lawley, size 12, will appear in Sports Illustrated in a bikini from her own line.

 

 

Ok so they have “technically” included some body diversity… Not hating but she is not that much “Larger” than a standard model, however I will give them kudos (with a side eye). But check this, here is what Lawley had to say about her body, her image:

“I don’t know if I consider myself as a plus-size model or not, I just consider myself a model because I’m trying to help women in general accept their bodies. ”

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Plus sized Model graces Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue…. in an AD

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So Sports Illustrated is including a  plus sized woman in their swimsuit issue.I know that all the “normal women” (like the ones with two arms and two legs) are supposed to be jumping up and down as our various parts giggle upon landing, grateful to be included in this annual homage to the sexualization of the female body, no matter how sleight that form might be, but I have a bone to pick (it could be a jutting hipbone, or protruding rib). Not to burst the “Congratulations” balloons or anything, but curvy model Ashely Graham is not a SI model, she is the model for   the swimsuitsforall campaign, #CurvesinBikinis. She is featured in an advertisement not the editorial spread. There is a big difference- like the difference between my thigh and  Candace Swanpole’s. I find the idea that media outlets are promoting the appearance of a full figured woman on a “advertisement” as a part of the actual swimsuit editorial is just false. It is a LIE, she is not included along side the likes of Benhati Prinsloo, Chrissy Teigen, Heidi Klum, Adirana Lima. She will be along side the likes of  deodorant, car and aftershave ads. To promote this “move” as Sports Illustrated taking a forward step to righting the warped image of the female form in the media,by making their swim suit issue inclusive on some level is untrue. What it means is that some genius in the the #CurvesinBikinis marketing department realized that they could capitalized on the lack of, nay the absence body diversity in the legendary issue and thought “. This is a perfect opportunity for us to get ALOT of coverage, because it has NEVER been done!”

It’s important that I stress that I don’t mean to take anything away from Ashley Graham or the swimsuitsforall campaign, I think that they are both amazing and are part of the healing that needs to happen for women, and our images in the media, what I am trying to point out is that this “Bold” and “Daring” act of putting a woman who has meat on her bones in the swimsuit issue is not, and did not come from Sports Illustrated, nor is she IN the editorial. So the real question is, do you think that Sports illustrated is making a bold move by accepting money to run an ad featuring a plus size woman?  To me it is akin to Monster Truck magazine running an ad for a Prius. #cashruleseverythingaroundme.

I am so sick and tired of the misappropriation, co-opting  and the contradictory circular conversation that has become the “Body Image” dialogue. I am tired of the faddish jargon that surrounds it that starts to become like white noise, conflating the real issues and deadening the nerve endings of the problem. I feel like the body image crisis has now been in circulation long enough for its commodification. Ladies, our desire for healing is being sold back to us by the people who infected us in the first place.

It happens to the best of issues. Think about what happened with bullying. Here we have children being physically and cyber bullied to the degree that some have felt the only way out was suicide, and it becomes a hot topic as it should, it’s a very real and serious problem that national news outlets and media should pick up and run with. Flash forward to grown ass, drunk ass women on reality series pulling out the “I was systematically bullied” card. Suddenly it becomes the go to declaration when some is confronting you and you don’t like it. News flash, Truth telling is not bullying…These reality stars, as a grown woman (most of whom are mothers) all had the power to: use their words, walk away from situations, they could in fact not instigate situations that turn against them, and then call the aftermath bullying. I guess what I am saying is that they could act like adults, or at least take the advice they would give their children instead of reducing themselves to finger pointing adolescences while throwing around incendiary terms  for entertainment. The result is that is dilutes the issue and the seriousness of bullying when it is real.

Over the last year I feel like the body image subject has built a bandwagon with all sorts of people who may or may not struggle with it, or even give a real damn hopping on. In September 2012 when Lady Gaga got blasted for gaining weight she started the Born This Way  Foundation that in it’s own words  “Is committed to supporting the wellness of young people, and empowering them to create a kinder and braver world. We achieve this by shining a light on real people, quality research and authentic partnerships.” Um I just went to the site and it’s still under construction. I suppose that’s because she lost the weigh got praised for it was past the issue,… Daily, celebrities use hot topic issues to deflect or direct attention, and this simply dilutes the cause. Then I have problems with the new terms  coined that are bandied about when convenient, like the term “Fat Shaming”. I have such conflicted feelings about this term, not because it doesn’t exist, but mainly because I think that it is often subject to overuse and abuse. When is something just a comment? and when is it “shaming”?.

There are instances when a comment could have been blown of and chalked up to a person’s simple ignorance, but instead it gets is blown up and labeled as “Fat Shaming” which at times I feel results in a form of reverse shaming, and shunning “You shouldn’t use words like that! Shame on you!” I just see that spoiled manipulative kid hiding behind the leg of an adult sniggering as they watch another child get in trouble. I’m not saying that “fat shaming” does not happen, however I do think there is a difference from calling someone fat, or saying that they gained weight, and making them feel less than about it. I know you can’t believe I wrote that, but I see it like this: you can call me black, that is fine, I am, now if you are trying to make me feel less then because I’m black, well that is another matter. you might think that this is splitting hairs, but I feel like becoming hypersensitive does not promote healing, strength and self empowerment.

We have a long way to go and lately I feel like the road is congested with folks who are not so much interested in getting to the destination as they are with enjoying the ride and site seeing. Personally I moving over into the passing lane and I’m gunning it. I’ll see you when you get there.

Tina Fey Hits the Nail on the Ass when it comes to Kim’s latest Ass Shots

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Tina Fay hit the nail on the head three years ago when she addressed the ass phenomenon in her her book Bossypants. She certainly called it for what it was, before it was what it became…

“I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful.

Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyoncé and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”

Marion Colltiard Dances and Walks on water for Dior

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I am a huge fan of Marion Colltiard, her performance in La Vie en Rose was amazing, she is truly a talent and a great beauty. It is no wonder that Christian Dior tapped her to be a spokesperson for their brand. As is their way, they have produced an extended commercial/movie starring Colltiard the concept of which is a take of from Inception. She can walk, skip, glide and slide on water. She also dances with an invisible partner. the routine harkens one back to an Uma Thurman in Pulp Fiction, or a too cool for school downtown dance routine, either way I found it charming and elegant in a quirky sort of Audrey Hepburn in Funny Face Kind of way.
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Aretha Franklin talks about wanting to be a ballet dancer

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The Queen of Soul wanting to be either an Nurse or a ballet dancer. In this interview with the Wall Street Journal she shares how she studied and was even friends with Dance Theatre of Harlem Founder Arthur Mitchell and how helped her master a step!! She talks about the ballet she did for Clive Davis….

She talks about it around 6:45 check it out!!!

A Chat With NYCB’s Wendy Whelan

Wendy Whelan is the First Lady of the New York City Ballet. She has been a principal dancer with the company for 23 years. With a repertoire of more than 50 ballets under her belt, (including pieces by George Balanchine, Jerome Robbins, Peter Martins, Twyla Tharp, William Forsythe, Christopher Wheeldon) there is little she has not done, or for that matter that she could not do. The thing that I appreciate about most Wendy is her artistry and the physical intelligence that is clear in her dancing.

Where she is amazingly technically consistent in her performance it is her musicality and her artistic choices that keep me mezmorized. I marvel at the way the depth of her subtext translates with such ease and subtlety through her body infusing the steps with weight and meaning no matter what ballet she is doing. Now in her 28th year at NYCB and at 45 years old she keeps getting better and better.

The other thing that fascinates me about Wendy is the fact that of all the ballet stars, it seems that her body (it’s size in particular) is spoken about almost as much as her dancing. She is thin, thin and muscular, and everyone from critics, to audience members have a feeling about it. Her’s is often the the body used as an example at both polarities of the body discussion in the world of ballet – some say she is ideal, others that she is way too thin. Well I was wondering how SHE felt about her body, and the fact that at times it is the source of such controversy. I also wanted to find out what her body maintenance regimen was and if it has changed as she matures. Mainly I wanted to get inside her head and find out exactly how she creates those incredible performances.

Previously I had only met her once, we shared a table at an Armitage Gone! Dance Gala. We spoke a bit, but you know how those things are. That night I found her very approachable (for a legend in her own time) there was no pretense, no air about her at all, she was there to enjoy the performance and party just like everyone else. When I reached out to her about the interview I was surprised that she responded so quickly and was willing to do it. We shot in her lovely apartment where I met Charlie Rose, her not so camera shy cat, and with a husband as a photographer she was totally into rearranging her living room to get the shot.

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One of the reasons I love doing the extended video interviews is because I think you can really get a feel of the person, their personality, their sense of humor-of… them, in their own words. You will see (as I did as we chatted) that Wendy loves…she is dance, art, movement, she is physically expressive with her hands and arms, she is has an internal train of thought that seems to seek exit either verbally, or with subtle epaulment, as she talks she tends to turn of her head or shoulders, she illustrates with touch and gestures. As she speaks to you she is so present in the moment, so intent on seeking, investigating and sensating that she at times happens upon things- a thought a feeling a memory…

And because she is so authentic, because she is so organically curious and courageous she goes for it, she pushes towards and through it–that thought, that feeling, that memory, which is just what happened during our interview when we were discussing her ordeal of being treated for Scoliosis when she was 12. She happened upon a suppressed memory of a time when she had issues with an eating disorder. Though she rarely talks about this painful (physically and emotionally) time in her development she willingly took herself back there to tell her body story. I was taken aback at how she, like Alice, slipped down that rabbit hole into that emotional place and investigated it, with me there, she did not back away from the re-discovery. I was honored and awed, and in those very tender, personal moments I learned how and why is, what she is. she may be a tiny little thing, but she is not fragile, the mettle of her person is astounding. When I went to the interview I was fan of her dancing, and now I am a fan of her as a woman. She is really an authentically, a wonderful woman, please watch these clips she has so much valuable information that she shares!!! Enjoy!

I Ain’t no Hollaback Girl!!!

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I am certain by that by now most of us have seen the viral catcall video the iHollaBack organization released to illustrate what women endure when traversing city streets on a daily basis. iHollaback.org (in case you are unfamiliar) is an organization committed to bringing awareness to, and ending the street harassment of women and LGBT individuals, which is both an important and underrepresented issue. Kudos to them, personally I am grateful. Where I can appreciate ihollerback.org’s work, I think it is clear (at least it is now) that this particular video is a marketing strategy less a true documentation of what happened to this woman on a single day. Seriously it is safe to say, that no matter how fine you are, 100 catcalls in 10 hours is excessive even for the “hottest” of women. Clearly there has to be an element of “production” and planting going on in this demonstration. Let’s say that ihollerback.org was intending this to be example of what happens to women daily, often multiple times daily, and give viewers the sense of harassment that women can feel when being cat called. Obviously it was effective, we are talking about it.

Now having gotten the desired effect and the attention, iHollaback is coming under scrutiny for the perceived “racial profiling” of their cat callers 9be they real, planted, or edited) because the offenders are primarily African American or Latino. Now the Brothers and the Cholos do have a very specific style when it comes to letting a female know that she’s “got it going on” however walk past a construction site (we all know it’s hard to find a person of color at one of those) and you will get some Caucasian hard hatters giving you the time of day in their* very special way. Here I have to agree with some of the critics, the video opens itself up to scrutiny in its lack of diversity, and the excessive amount of catcalls this one* woman gets in a 10 hour period (really who could even walk around for ten hours straight). iHollaback might have faired better had they done a compilation that took place over a period of time, using a diverse group women to illustrate their point with more believably. It would have been more realistic, and might have cut naysayers off before they got started. In situations like this sort of aggrandizement can work against you in terms of creating validity for your cause.

I, like countless other women have been the recipient, dare I say the victim of unwanted catcalls and comments whilst walking down the street. As a woman, if you walk anywhere (down a street, through a mall etc.) catcalling is a basic and almost guarenteed reality. Personally this reality has informed the way that I move through the world. There is not a day that goes by, that while getting dressed I do not consider the potential ogling or the verbal comments that an outfit might draw (especially in warmer weather). The contemplation of one’s daily outfits can go deeper than merely wanting to be “on trend” often it has a great deal to do with staying out of the firing line of unwanted male attention. Walking the streets can be akin to walking the gauntlet, which is a sad and horrifying truth when all you really want to do is look nice. We all know the facts, and are aware of the studies, it has been proven that if women dress for anyone other than themselves, they dress for the approval of other women, not men. Women want to t want to feel good in their bodies, and in their clothes. When most women they are not actively trying to solicit comments from random, anonymous men on the street. Let’s be clear, when women go out on the town, that’s a different story all together.

My personal desire to be not be acknowledged by the peanut gallery in the streets has resulted in the creation of very clear rules of dressing:

I will not wear shorts that are too short
I do not wear shorts or skirts that are too tight
I will not expose my legs and midriff at the same time.
I do not wear anything tight around my buttocks and hips, unless I have a flowing cover up over it

Camouflage is my friend, not the print necessarily but in the way of fabric that can conceal or shield my figure (that for the most part I work hard to keep) from onlookers. You would think that with the money and time that I spend on keeping my body tight and right I would want to show it off. Well, in a way I do, however not at the expense of being verbally accosted on the way to work as I am traversing the streets of New York City, or during the too close for comfort subterranean travel in the Metro.

This brings us back to the idea of women dressing for themselves, women also take care their bodies for themselves as well. We like to look in the mirror and think that we look good or sexy. We like to, we need to be, and feel attractive to ourselves before we can ever hope to be attractive to someone else. If men find us attractive as a by-product that is a bonus. Sure we want to attract men, and yes we want men to acknowledge us, of course, but in a why that is honors who we are, not makes us a piece of meat they are deciding how to carve up. There are those who would argue that we [women] can’t have it both ways, we can’t have our cake and keep our waistlines too, however I would counter that the actual “attraction” of men is not the issue, that is a good thing, it’s the way some men choose to express that attraction that can be problematic. Making lewd, sexually explicit comments to a stranger on the street is not a socially acceptable response to a person’s attraction to another. It will almost assuredly cause the object of you desire to quicken her pace away from you.

It would be nice if as a woman I could dress however I wanted and walk with impunity through the streets unmolested, but since I know I can’t I follow my rules. They make me feel safe, this is the only thing in the equation that at can control. I am not a fan of provocative dress, but I am an advocate of a woman having a right dress the way she wants. That having been stated, there is a harsh reality at play, and the stakes are high and the penalties can be severe. Mothers and aunties of young girls warn them against presenting themselves a certain way as they might “attract attention that you don’t know what to do with”. We teach young girls who are starting to develop their womanly figures and look more mature than their ages, not to “flaunt” their new assets because men, GROWN men might not be able to control themselves in their words and actions towards them, not as a child, not as women, not as a human being deserving equal respect.

We teach the young girls that their femininity will not be respected and honored, it might actually endanger them, so they should cover it up. We teach them that they must learn to be adroit in the deflection a man’s unwanted advances or comments, preferably without bruising his ego for fear hat he might lash out. We teach the GIRLS that they somehow have to mute their budding womanliness to keep themselves safe from men who have no self control. At a time when they should be learning to empower themselves as women, to be bold and brash and live out loud…we teach them to fear, and reduce themselves, in the name of survival, and sadly enough we as their elders, and protectors are right do so. At times these catcalls, if gone unacknowledged by the woman can escalate in to verbal and sometimes physical assaults. A woman must walk a fine line at times, choosing her battles, using her instincts as to who she can safely “holllerback” at. Mothers, and aunties, and sisters and godparents teach the young girls in their charge this valuable lesson….What are the Fathers and Uncles and Brothers teaching the young boys?

This is the key to the issue. Women can holler back but until men stop catcalling we will just be making noise, we will always have to be on the defensive. It places the onus on the women, dare I say the victim in this scenario, not the perpetrator. Men must take responsibility for their actions by respecting women, their bodies and their right to be in a space and feel safe. They must teach young boys that women should not be not put upon in this disrespectful manner. The answer is not simply to holler back, although it is important that girls and women know that they have a voice, which gives them a choice and that should be exercised. As a tall strong woman most of the time I feel safe deflecting cat callers, there are times when I have even engaged them. Most times these men wait until you pass, then talk to your ass, they never look you in the face and comment, it’s cowardly behavior. If it is a young boy/man I will often stop, double back and do some “reeducation” my lesson plan is as follows:

“Hey, you saw me a half a block away, you walked right past me and didn’t speak. Why did you wait until I passed to speak? My ass doesn’t talk, my face does.”

Most of the times they mumble their apologies. I give them a stern and grandmotherly look and finally say, “ Now, Good Morning” and walk on.

There have been times when I have been so perturbed that I have FULLY engaged them in conversation about their actions to which some will reply that they were just acknowledging that I looked nice, to which I will let them that “I am a lady and I would appreciate being addressed as one, and I will respond to you as a gentleman” but these are interactions with men whom my gut tells me are not crazy. Crazy men you keep your head down, or earphones in and keep walking.

I don’t know what the solution is short of creating a society where men respect and honor women, and that begins in the home, and elders leading by example but until then… I guess we all have to just Hollaback.

This interview is high-larious!!! The guy is just clueless but so gets schooled!!