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Oh No! not Jen Aniston Too even SHE has a sex tape…

Well not really it’s her ad for Smartwater (don’t really know how you could make water smarter except for maybe drinking it but…) This is brilliant! I love that it poke fun at what sells these days! The little boy in the beginning it hysterical and the dirty dancing babies…..

I have to say she looks great, love the jeans and that belt. Her body looks amazing. I think that it is really incredible how she completely changed her body by changing her lifestyle, yoga does the body good! now drink some Water- personally I like my water dumb and easy lol!

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On This International Women’s Day

On this International Women’s day I would like to offer the women who populate the global- and keep the globe populated the appreciation and respect due them. You, we, women make the world possible, not solely by being the vessels and bringers of life, but by being the nurturers and the first teachers of every and any being that inhabits this planet. Though through time women have not been giving their rightful and honored place in society we have endured and continued onwards. We strive, survive and thrive!!!

Let us remember that we must first appreciate and respect ourselves before we can demand it from others. With that, let us not speak badly about, or to ourselves, on this day and every day going forward. Let us extend some compassion for where we may fall short of the expectations of the World and ourselves. Let us honor our humanness by allowing ourselves to make mistakes and know that we are not those mistakes, nor do they define us. Let us on this all days going forward find, be awed by the wonder of our bodies their forms and their actions:
Our knowing bodies prepare for the process of bring forth life before we can grasp the gravity of the responsibility. Hips spread to allow, breasts bud to feed, hearts open to break and heal that we might know and pass on the knowledge and lessons of our lives to those in our charge. But we are so much more then our bodies, it is our undying spirits that are the unsung heroes of our own story.

So on this day a mere 24 hours given us, to be acknowledged globally for our contributions, I say to you, let the world herald you on this day but make every day your day, be good to yourself, allow your self to see your beauty, your perfection, your grace, and know that you are just as you should be on this day and every day.

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Hunched and Hungry….is that hot?


Maybe it was because we had both had been watching re-runs of Sex and the City on E, or perhaps it was the feeling that Spring was breaking and it always makes you want to renew something, your home, your self, or your wardrobe, either way, Sunday my Bestie April and I decided to forgo our usual in house brunch and go shopping instead. April had sworn off skinny jeans but had decided to give them another shot. Although she is “skinny”, being 5”10 she found the standard 29 inch inseam too short and thought that the style itself made her look too much like a stick. I know, it’s hard to be her friend when it comes to conversations of her trying to gain weight and looking too thin, but the poor dear, someone’s got to do it.

So we decided to make it a jeans hunting Sunday and save our cocktailing for the post to make us feel better about the traumatic experience, which is akin to bathing suit shopping in terms of horror. In the past I have spent exurbanite amounts of money for the hip hot jeans, but the fit was never right. If they fit right in the hips and thighs I would always have that gap at the back of the waist. After spending $200.00 I found that additional $30.00 for tailoring insulting. Speaking of the gap- that is where I would always end up, at the Gap, buying my jeans out of their “Curvy” line. For $60.00 I could slip on a pair of jeans that fit like a glove, hugged the waist and made everyone ask, “What kind of jeans are they?” I after 3 seasons of shopping around and trying to spend money, only to be left feeling like a deformed loser because nothing fit right or looked good, as a last resort I would end up back at the Gap. I decided to commit to the brand and be done with it.

Sunday it was my plan to start high end and then if we had no luck go to the Gap- thus making April a new convert. Coming from opposite ends of the Isle of Manhattan we braved the typhoon that was Sunday’s weather pattern and met at Bloomingdale’s. In the J Brand section we were assisted by a lovely salesman Jonathan (his real name because he was a riot, honest and supremely helpful- Kudos) and she began the tedious process of pulling on and off at least eight pairs of jeans: the J Brands were the right wash but were indeed too short, another brand (Karen) I thought looked banging but April wasn’t sold. She tried a Jegging but thought it was skanky- and not “classy” skanky, which is workable but tacky skanky, which is unacceptable. We even sunk to the point of trying 7’s Kimmie (Kardashian) jeans, they were a good fit but the wrong wash, and frankly I didn’t want to contribute to the 65 million dollar empire (call me a hater and I’ll answer). So exasperated, we thanked Jonathan and, with our blood alcohol levels dangerously low for a Sunday evening we decided to abort the mission and go for cocktails. On our way out we passed by the Helmut Lang section, as we weighed in on what we thought of the designs, (both agreeing that Jersey could be a dangerous textile) I spied a dark wash, straight-leg jean. I convinced her to give it one last try. As the sales person looked for her size, a row unclothed, golden mannequins caught my eye, not because they were unclothed but because they were skeletal and suffering from the worst case of Kyphosis I had seen since the Hunchback of Notre Dame. They were hunched and hungry- oohh that’s hot!

Why is concentration camp thin chic?

As they were bare, bald, and metallic they looked like the alien creatures that step off of UFO’s. You know the ones who come to invade planet Earth to either kill off the human race or use us as host bodies. At first I found it disturbing because these forms are used to sell to us [women] but my second realization was even more frightening. Although these were inanimate objects devoid of flesh, blood and organs (perhaps why they were so thin) they were in fact not so far from the average size of living breathing models.
(this is not the actual mannequins- didn’t think to take the pic, darn!)

I understand that there are women who are naturally thin, even skinny, but they are in no sense (especially in this country) the norm. I find it disturbing is that we, [women] come in all shapes and sizes and yet there is little to no representation of that fact even when we, [real women] are being marketed to. There is no wonder why we suffer from body image issues. The marketing to real women is segregated- placed apart, it’s the Jim Crow aspect of Fashion. Seriously, a size 12 (which technically in America is still below average) is considered plus size for the fashion industry. I ask you how can women feel good about spending money on clothing if we are made to feel inadequate about our size and form through the imagery generated to represent us? We, real women are not truly considered in the aesthetic of the optimum form that these garment are designed to clothe. Personally if I’m going to buy something, I want to be able to see the possibility of myself in it, is that so wrong?

I started to look around at the women on the sales floor, both the sales women and shoppers, and no one, including my hatefully thin best friend looked like that. Who is this image that supposed to represent? The ideal? If so, then the ideal of what? Of whom? Well clearly we are all falling short. How can that image inspire one to buy a garment if when the truth of your reality faces you in the mirror of the dressing room and you see flesh on hips, and booty poking out where on the mannequin it hung limply, effortlessly down? It makes you feel less than and messes with your head.

What is more interesting is that mannequins like people actually do come in varying sizes and colors. Depending on where you shop you might well see a version of your form in plastic. I have always found it interesting that when you go into communities that are primarily African or Latino, the mannequins always have a round booty that when selling jeans (for the most part) is turned outwards to the onlooker mimicking how booty proud women often like to take pictures

(you know the booty to the camera looking over the shoulder pose “heeey”).

They are fuller forms that are familiar, and representative of the women being sold to. The question is why are these fuller mannequin forms relegated to certain areas and classes when in truth women, white, black, yellow red and mixtures of the rainbow, rich, poor or somewhere in between take on every shape and form? There are thick women on Flatbush Avenue and there are thick women on 5th Avenue. It’s just an observation.

April tried the Helmut Lang’s loved them, bought them and we never made it to the Gap. Instead we risked getting an eye gouged out by oncoming umbrellas, took the N train downtown and had our girl time over wine and salads with sides of fries! Yes I had fries, and I enjoyed them because at the end of the day, I don’t want to looked hunched and hungry, I would much prefer, healthy and happy! Cheers!

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Is it all over for Rachel Zoe?

I always thought there was something Ba-na-nas about the whole Rachel Zoe and her below zero sized celebrity clientele. There has to be something to the fact that all of the “it” girls that she styled and brought her into the limelight as a celebrity stylist were all anorexic looking girls who all had issues with drug or alcohol abuse. The more famous Zoe got for styling them the thinner they all got. Then there is Misha Barton and her bong, or Nicole Richie and her Vicodin for cramps that had her driving the wrong way on the LA freeway, and Lindsey -well she’s still going through it. Richie even alluded to the fact that she broke away from Zoe because she was unhealthy for her. She made the break and cleaned up her life, now is that because she was out from under Zoe, who knows I’m just sayin’


With all the focus on weight and BMI for models and actresses lately, one of the most famous advocates of the size zero style is facing some negative attention. For the last few years, stylist Rachel Zoe has been at the top of the heap. Her “girls,” the young waifs she draped in satiny gowns and oversized sunglasses, have included some of Hollywood’s hottest (and skinniest): Lindsay Lohan, Mischa Barton and Nicole Richie. But lately, the super stylist has been dogged by persistent rumors about her slim clients.
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Norma Kamali Gets The Wellness Conversation Started


What does the founder of Aveda, a fashion designer, a doctor, a physical trainer and a choreographer have in common? All of these people are passionate about spreading health and wellness throughout America.

Yesterday, I attended an event at The MOMA put on by fashion designer, Norma Kamali, “Conversations: A Dialogue on Wellness Solutions.” Kamali’s goal is to motivate people to take better care of themselves through eating healthier and exercising more. She has put together a series of two-minute video interviews with people like Horst, the founder of Aveda skin products, who believes beauty and health come from the natural minerals of the Earth. Also in her series of videos is an interview with choreographer, Twyla Tharp, who has put together hundreds of dances for Broadway and Hollywood Productions. Her message is to keep moving. You’re never going to accomplish anything by sitting still. continue

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Model/Film Maker Sara Ziff is back

Sara Ziff is at it again here are some clips of her discussion with Crystal Renn and Susan Scafidi, director of Fordham’s Fashion Law Institute. Crystal Renn admits where her eating disorder started and that she once Weighed 95 Pounds. Both women address a Fordham Law school class and discuss the lack of regulation in the industry which opens the door for certain abuses to minors, missing school, sexual abuse, and over work. They bring up very salient points who said model were stupid? These girls are fierce!

Ziff and Renn are in discussion with Susan Scafidi, director of Fordham’s Fashion Law Institute who bring s up some great points about how through the eras the preferred body type regardless of size had a .7 hip to waist ratio (Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn both had the ratio). Scafidi also brings up the fact that where designers have issue with diversity of race and size on the runway the idea of having women with different hair colors is not an issue.

The Whole World Can’t Relate To One Body Type

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Give Me A Break


Jenny Stahl senior editor for Pointe and new contributing writer for My Body My Image talks about women’s All or Nothing Superwoman complex- and how having compassion for self can make a HUGE difference.

A little love goes a long way—especially when it comes to loving yourself. No, I’m not a hippy. New research proves it’s true! Scientists have found that having self-compassion helps you not only live a happier life, but also a healthier one, too.
American culture often tells us that to succeed, we just need to work harder, be better, keep ourselves from falling prey to temptation. This seems especially true for women. All too often, we get caught up in a competitive cycle of proving to ourselves and everyone around us that we have the willpower it takes to accomplish everything we want. Anything she can do, with enough determination, I can do better. If I just perform 500 crunches a day for the next year, I’ll have her abs. As long as I never touch fried food, I can stay under 130 pounds.

Many of us are afraid that if we don’t keep up the self-criticism, we’ll let ourselves go and become overly indulgent. In fact, as Theresa noted on My Body My Image last month, a Glamour poll recently found that 97 percent of women have an “I hate my body” moment at least once a day, with the average being 13 negative body image thoughts per day! That’s a hell of a lot of negativity, and if you were doing it to anyone but yourself, you’d probably be strapped with a restraining order for emotional abuse.

When we give ourselves no wiggle room, no compassion for our human tendencies, we end up feeling guilty over any minor offense, which only leads to a downward spiral of even more destructive behaviors. Because we tend to think of ourselves in all or nothing terms: saint or sinner, virgin or slut, fat or thin. It’s hard to find a middle ground, to accept the shades of grey between the black and white of what we define as “good” or “bad” behaviors. Once we slip up, we irrationally put ourselves in the “bad” category, so we figure we might as well keep going because we don’t deserve any better anyway.

For example, I know that when I tell myself there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a couple scoops of ice cream once in awhile, I’m able to keep it at that: a couple scoops. But whenever I try to enforce an all-out ban on sweets, I’ll eventually get an uncontrollable craving for Ben & Jerry’s, buy a pint, feel guilty about it, and then somehow the entire thing will disappear in less than an hour. Healthy diet: Fail.
Researchers hypothesize that when we disapprove of our own actions, we set ourselves up for behaviors like emotional eating. But when we acknowledge that nobody is perfect and give ourselves permission to accept our flaws, it’s easier to do things in moderation. We’re able to keep from freaking out and acting like a crazy person.
Accept your failure to be perfect. Because expecting anything else is simply unrealistic.
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T’ruth be told you can be a Super Woman or even a Wonder Woman and not have to be perfect all the time. Just remember you are a Woman which make you human. And just a side bar how FIERCE is Linda CARTER??? And you know I had to find a Brown Superwoman- had to See myself to Be Myself!!!lol

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Addicted To Food? 5 Tips To Control Your Cravings

Where was this when I was on a 2 week snacking binge? I know that when I sit down to write, the most exercise I get is going back and forth to the snack shelf–and YES I have a snack Shelf!!! Maybe these tips can help me!

I’ve had a few recent run-ins with dark-chocolate M&Ms. Here’s what happens: I’ll grab a few of the candies then sit down at my computer to meet a writing deadline. Type a few words, then walk back the cabinet for more M&Ms. Two sentences. Three M&Ms. The more difficult the subject matter, the less I’m able to focus on writing and the more overwhelming is the pull of the M&Ms.

In the March/April issue of EatingWell, science writer Rachael Moeller Gorman tackles the topic of food addiction — the idea that food can overtake the same brain circuits involved in drug and alcohol addictions. Could I be addicted to chocolate? I could be: people who chronically crave food aren’t so different from people who suffer drug or alcohol addiction, say some experts, including Nora Volkow, director of the National Institute on Drug Abuse.

But I’m not addicted to chocolate. For me, overeating M&Ms is situational—the latest manifestation of a chronic procrastination problem that gets worse when I’m under the gun and low on sleep. And, in fact, dealing with issues like stress and too little sleep can help “cure” food cravings, Volkow told Gorman recently. Try these tips to help you stave off overeating*:
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Seduce Me: Female Bodies in Black Swan

By Tiffany Tsai
Freelance writer in Los Angeles

Excerpt:
Although I was initially thrilled by the reception and attention Black Swan received, I was shocked to discover what these reactions consisted of. Women — young and old–aspired to look like Portman’s character; they wanted to attain the ballerina body, don the “prima ballerina couture.” Critics and viewers alike focused almost exclusively on the artist’s impossible quest for perfection. A few mentioned a woman’s inability to attain perfection — instead of the artist — but most glossed over the reasons behind this. New York Times reviewer Manohla Dargis even wrote, “The screenplay, by Mark Heyman, Andrés Heinz and John McLaughlin, invites pop-psychological interpretations about women who self-mutilate while striving for their perfect selves…But such a reading only flattens a film.” Dargis’s desire to distance herself from pop-psychology is understandable; to simplify the film to the female perfectionist is doing the film a disservice. However, neglecting the significance of the female body in the film ignores the film’s essence.

Black Swan focuses, almost exclusively, on a female body — Nina’s body. The film documents the way Nina believes she can attain perfection and take control of her life by purging, starving, scratching, sexualizing and prostituting herself. Nina’s definition of perfection is intertwined with other characters’ opinions about female perfection. By utilizing two distinct, female personas — the black swan and the white swan, Aronofsky’s film addresses the problematic expectations and policing of gender performance in our society. As we delve further into the film, we soon see that Nina’s most significant performance in the film is not in Swan Lake, but instead, her performative role as a woman in our world.

In the film, Aronofsky appropriates two female clichés that recur in literature — that of the naïve, inexperienced, usually virginal girl and that of the experienced, sexually deviant seductress. Nina is initially presented as the virginal girl (the white swan) but is compelled by Thomas, the ballet company’s director, to take on the role of the second figure (the black swan). Although it is easy to identify Nina, before she is swallowed by her insanity, with the white swan, she is not. In fact, she is neither of these figures.

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“I have Cellulite” Says Holly Madison

Holly has a figure most women would envy. And yet, Holly isn’t afraid to admit that her small stature doesn’t exempt her from what haunts millions: cellulite. “I have cellulite – and had it even when I was at my absolute thinnest,” she tells Life & Style. “I’m never not going to have cellulite. People need to just accept that it’s there and maybe dress accordingly or use body makeup to cope with it.”

Still, when Peepshow’s choreographer and director instructed Holly to shed weight – after she’d gained 15 pounds following her move to Sin City – she was hurt, she confesses. “Once I realized that other people were noticing that I’d packed on a few, I was embarrassed to go onstage,” she reveals. Making matters worse: her Holly’s World nemesis, model Jayde Nicole. “Holly needs to lose 10 pounds of fat,” Jayde, who once cattily sent Holly a basket full of candy when she knew her co-star was dieting, recently told Life & Style.
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